Editor's Corner Excerpted from the February 2010 Newsletter FOCUS ON SPEAKING SKILLS 2/04/09 Speaking Tips for Anyone Who Talks NEW. LOOK FOR BARB'S BLOG -- A STEADY FLOW OF SOUND ADVICE AND IDEAS at http://gettingoveryourself.wordpress.com Have you missed issues of the newsletter? They're archived on our website, along with articles and tips to make you a better speaker. Go to www.GettingOverYourself.com. While you're on the website check into the books, tapes, CDs and DVDs listed. They're described at the bottom of this newsletter. People tell us they're a big help. In this issue: Being in the moment First person How to impress your audience Quotes can make it lively Take a look at our expanded resource list Attend another workshop for half price May Workshop in Pasadena/ In-house seminars Websites to check out for quotations: www.worldofquotes.com http://www.americanrhetoric.com/top100speechesall.html http://www.brainyquote.com http://www.mightyminds.com/quotes BEING IN THE MOMENT It's a constant choice to be made: to be in the moment or scattered. Scattered is easy (and sometimes masquerades as multitasking. Staying focused takes discipline. Think about it: How often do you arrive at your destination and have no recall of how you got there? Or read a passage over and over because, while your eyes are seeing the words, you aren't capturing the meaning? And then there are all the times people sit down after giving a presentation and say, "What did I say?" Or, "How did it go?" We convince ourselves that multitasking makes us more efficient--and perhaps there are times when it does. The trick is to have the awareness and the ability to know the difference and act accordingly. Whatever case you can make for multitasking being a good thing, can't be made when it comes to communicating. Whether you’re speaking to a group, networking, managing, talking to your kids or your significant other, being in the moment pays big dividends. And it will often keep you out of hot water. Practice staying in the moment for at least one conversation a day and you'll find that it gets easier. When your focus muscle is well developed, you'll be able to be focused when it matters. FIRST PERSON Roxanne Kennedy-Moore, Sr. Manager, Global Compliance & Requirements, The Boeing Company: “The techniques you taught during our seminar really work! I'm applying some of the techniques learned during the course and they are working quite well. I started right off using "Snap. Crackle. and Pop!" That is, making sure I was staying focused and that my voice was emphasizing what I meant to emphasize, rather than having my voice and words sending conflicting messages.. "I also found the audience focusing more on the topic at hand (as I have become). "Then, I was required to provide a year-end briefing to our Executives (this is a big deal). The briefing went exceptionally well and they commented on my style and content of the briefing. I was the only one in the room that was recognized for the message communicated. The best technique was to outline my briefing a week before...and the rest fell into place." IMPRESSING THE AUDIENCE "What's the best way to impress your audience?" The best way to impress your audience is to look and sound like you belong there, know what you're talking about, and admit when you don't know. Looking and sounding like you belong there is a function of what you're thinking plus getting rid of bad habits that physically distract the audience from your message. Knowing what you're talking about doesn't mean sounding rehearsed, it means you're comfortable with what you know about the subject (even if you don't know everything about it) and have organized it in a way that makes it easy for your audience to follow your point. Finally, admitting you don't know something about your subject and being okay with it makes you human and adds to the overall impression that you are in charge and a person to be reckoned with.. Quotes to Make You a Better Speaker “The shorter way to do many things is to do only one thing at a time.” —Mozart “There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” —Colin Powell “I am learning all the time. The tombstone will be my diploma.” —Eartha Kit “The audience will respect you for your successes, but they will love you for your failures.” —Larry Wilson “The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” —Sven Goran Eriksson FORWARD THIS NEWSLETTER TO A FRIEND Thousands of people have to give presentations every day, and that includes people you know. Take a moment to forward this newsletter to them. And encourage them to sign up for their own subscription. RE-ATTEND FOR HALF PRICE As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of my 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People have said they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. WORKSHOP "How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking" Pasadena Sheraton: 3-day workshop May 5, 6, and 7, 2010 I have two public seminars each year: May and November. Registration for the 3-day workshop: $1095. Discount for three or more attendees from the same company. If you have a number of people who could use this training, please call or e-mail regarding an in-house seminar .. Visit www.gettingoveryourself.com for details or call (888) 800-2001 or (626) 792-8075. Mailing address: P.O. Box 60521, Pasadena, CA 91116 Book "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking and More" by Barbara Rocha, 210 pages, 2nd Edition, 2004, illustrated, cartoons $19.95. The basic text you'll definitely want to walk you through the pitfalls of public speaking. If you're not comfortable speaking, you must have this book. Audiotape or CD ROM The "Getting Over Yourself" book read by the author. Audiotapes (set of three): ($17.95); CD ROMs (set of two): ($19.95). Pocket-size books $9.95 each "Pocket Guide for Presenters," 103 pages The Cliff Notes version of "Getting Over Yourself." No cartoons, and less explanation of the whys and hows. Just the right size to take with you for a quick reminder of all those points you learned in the full size edition or in our seminar. "60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in Time Answers to Frequently Asked Questions," 154 pages Answers specific questions you may have with "what to do when . . ." questions, such as how to deal with a boss who takes over during your presentation, or how to handle your visual aids in a crisis, or how to proceed if everyone is focused on your broken nose. "Love to Talk, Hate to Speak? How to Gain Confidence in Front of Any Audience," 121 pages A collection of short vignettes on various parts of speaking you'd like to know more about, such as more information on holding the audience's attention at the end of your presentation, being confident in those first moments before you start to speak, or using the elements of a good conversation to make it easier and more natural speaking to a group. Tips booklets $5. each. 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Orders Think gifts. Someone you know is going to be giving more presentations soon. Give them a practical gift that will make those presentations easier and more effective. Learn more or Order Online. Book "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking...and More" by Barbara Rocha 208 pages, illustrated, cartoons $19.95 Audiotape or CD ROM The "Getting Over Yourself" book on audiotape read by the author ($17.95) or CD ROM ($19.95). Booklets by Barbara Rocha: $9.95 each (+$1.50 Shipping and Handling) "Pocket Guide for Presenters" 103 pages "60 Ways to Spark Your Speaking: Just in time answers to frequently asked questions" 154 pages "Love to Talk/Hate to Speak: Selected articles by Barbara Rocha" 121 pages Speeches on Tape: "From Bored Room to Board Room" $10.95 "Stand Up and Stand Out" $10.95 Video "Getting Over Yourself: A Guide to Painless Public Speaking" featuring Barbara Rocha in excerpts from her book, seminar classes and interactive coaching. VHS $99.95 Learn more Order Online Call (888) 800-2001 E-mail: BouldinHil@aol.com Write: Bouldin Hill Press at 17-555 Bubbling Wells Rd., Desert Hot Springs, CA 92241 Seminars **How to Overcome the Stress of Public Speaking Pasadena: 3-day workshop May 5, 6, and 7, 2010. We have two public seminars each year: May and November. If you have several people who could use this training, contact us regarding an in-house seminar. As a refresher, workshop graduates (from any of our 3-day workshops) may attend for half price at any time. People tell us they get as much or more out of the workshop the second time around. Visit our seminars section for details or call (888) 800-2001 For more information, contact: Barbara Rocha and Associates PO Box 60521, Pasadena, California 91116 (626) 792-8075 or toll free at (888) 800-2001